I still remember how I felt when on June 1, 2010 on an emergency visit to a psychologist for depression the doctors told me I had to be partially hospitalized for 3 days. Who knew it would turn into 22 days and that was only the first of many hospitalizations. But today I will tell you about that first partial hospitalization. Continue reading
Dissociative disorders are characterized by an involuntary escape from reality characterized by a disconnection between thoughts, identity, consciousness and memory. People from all age groups and racial, ethnic and socioeconomic backgrounds can experience a dissociative disorder. Its estimated that 2% of people experience dissociative disorders, with women being more likely than men to be diagnosed. Almost half of adults in the United States experience at least one depersonalization/derealization episode in their lives, with only 2% meeting the full criteria for chronic episodes. The symptoms of a dissociative disorder usually first develop as a response to a traumatic event, such as abuse or military combat, to keep those memories under control. Stressful situations can worsen symptoms and cause problems with functioning in everyday activities. However, the symptoms a person experiences will depend on the type of dissociative disorder that a person has. Treatment for dissociative disorders often involves psychotherapy and medication. Though finding an effective treatment plan can be difficult, many people are able to live healthy and productive lives. – To read more go to:
Together but Alone…
Poem dedicated to D.I.D (Dissociative Identity Disorder)
You guys want to come out
but I fight you so hard.
You want to walk with me hand in hand,
but I am so scared of that.
Then finally you come here,
thinking you are protecting us.
You think you are my savior,
but instead you are the one
that is sinking my life.
Then the little one comes out
just to paint or to cry.
Yes! To cry , to cry so hard…
for all those years
that I held my tears back.
All of the sudden I wake up
with my chest tight and a guilt
that is too heavy
and I don’t want to carry it all my life.
All because I know
that together we walk,
but alone I will always stand.
Cause you all are making sure
that in the end
there is no one
The lady, the protector and the child.
Walking around hand in hand.
Original piece by: Ormarie Aldoyn Ruiz
With this post I just want to address a few things so people can understand better how it is to live with this disorder. This disorder really makes me feel lost whenever I experience an episode. I’m going to share a list of how do I really feel about this.
- Is really frustrating waking up and literally not knowing what’s been happening maybe yesterday or the past few days (the feeling is horrible).
- My memory play tricks on me all the time, for example I can say to Joel, my husband: Honey…I want to see that movie, but then he look at me and say “baby, we watched that movie 2 days ago”…So most of the time I end watching the same movie over and over and it will feel as the first time, unless I watch it in my normal self.
- Is so embarrassing for me to go out acting like a Diva with a full makeup on when “Marie” is around, and go on a shopping spree spending my husband’s money reckless, just because she likes to piss him off. This devastates me, because I’m not like that.
- Is extremely sad whenever the little girl shows up (Marita). How do I know this? Well, because I have seen drawings of her that are completely disturbing to me, and recently my husband showed me for the first time a video that he took of her and I couldn’t contain my tears. I don’t like that Joel & my daughter have to deal with that kind of trauma.
- Sometimes I have called my husband to let him know that I don’t know how I got to a place or why I was there, thank God it happened just a few times.
- I hate that I have lost a few therapy and psychiatrist appointments because “Marie is around and she doesn’t want to go” Then when the Dr call she just say to them that I don’t need them…No, is not funny at all!
- I hate that frequently my husband have to cancel dinners with friends or other activities because I haven’t been myself that day.
- Although I love to see pictures of our family, some of them are so confusing to me, because not remembering that you were there, but the picture proves that you were indeed, it make me feel lost!
- I can feel the stress and preoccupation that my husband & daughter experience day by day, even though they say they’re just fine, I know it has to be affecting them in some way & not knowing what to do to completely control this, makes me feel guilty of having this disorder.
- But the worst feeling is just knowing that it can happen again.
- On the positive side I know that not all the time the experiences are bad or traumatizing, for example: my daughter enjoys the company of “Marie” specially when she’s happy, Camille says that “Marie” is funny and silly and loves to take her shopping, also sometimes “Marita” shows up, just to do some coloring with her & she even let her to play with her hair…actually I found a picture of her with almost 15 bows on her hair and a weird makeup that Camille put on her. That picture had been taken approximately 5 years ago.
Something that makes me feel better about this, is that I’m working so hard to overcome this, I’m following the therapy, I’m getting informed, I read a lot obviously from credible resources, I try my best to identify if something can be a trigger so I can evade those, I have great amount of help from my immediate family, but most importantly I also take care of my other disorders with the medication that I need. As you already know I have Bipolar Disorder, PTSD, OCD, trichotillomania, General Anxiety & D.i.D, but you know what? This doesn’t make me less of a human, this illnesses have make me a stronger person who is passionate about helping others to understand that people like me exist and we are, good daughters, great sisters, good wife’s, devoted mothers & understanding friends. Knowing that you have stay here for us even when we aren’t here for you, that’s more than enough and we really appreciate it
For years I was taking the same medication over and over, without seeing any improvement, the only medication that my Dr changed a few times was the one for psychotic episodes, but other than that I was taking the same thing for almost 5 years. You would ask…What happened?…Did they worked?..Well let me start with this….I was lost. Continue reading
In this post I would like to speak on behalf of all the people like me (mental illness patients); I just want to send a big THANK YOU to all the loyal caregivers that work tirelessly every day to make our lives better. I know that sometimes is difficult for you to believe that you are very important to us, because we may not know how to express our gratitude towards you, but believe me, although we do not say it often, we love you a lot and I do mean a lot… (remember our feelings are very strong)!!!! Continue reading
Sadly sometimes I had to be the one that withdraw from some heated discussion … If they only knew how difficult it is for someone with my condition (Bipolar Disorder among other things) to understand that it’s time to stay quiet, when in fact what you want is to scream and shout, to talk and talk nonstop. How ironic no? That’s why I decided to put up a list of tips that can help make our experience in life more pleasant & sweet for you and me so it doesn’t become a life full of bitterness. I hope this can help other people who have relatives who like me suffer from this mental illness. Continue reading
HELLO MY READERS. I’m sorry I was MIA, I’ve been pretty sick lately so I apologize for that. Since 2 months ago I’ve been noticing how good is for me to laugh everyday. I couldn’t believe how much is helping having my sister so close, She’s like my personal comedian, she definitely knows how to keep me happy with her funny personality and her silliness! Right now that’s I need, since I’m experiencing some mayor changes in my life… Continue reading
Whenever I have a depression crisis I start feeling numb. It feels like the world just stop and I get stuck. The feeling of emptiness emerge, slowly taking my life apart. Everything losses importance, I can only focus in how worthless I feel, how bad it is for my family to have to deal with me. How can someone live with a mind like this? A mind that loves to play tricks on me. Then I start feeling like a sinking boat, drowning in a sea of bad thoughts, a never ending feeling of despair. Continue reading